While rehab may be about abstinence from alcohol or drugs, working the 12-Steps of AA requires fellowship, getting out of your own head, supporting others, tolerance, being of service, honoring commitments – and changing your attitude about the world, people, and circumstances in your life. It’s also about surrendering the belief that you can control [...]

Amy ( @crackedpotts on Twitter) needs a 3Lunches coach for health, wellness, fitness in the Kansas City area. Since Amy doesn’t know a friend with the right experience for this task, I’m reaching out to see if anyone is willing to do #3Lunches with Amy. Amy is looking for some practical coaching from someone who [...]

A 3Lunches coachee achieved a milestone over the weekend. At our lunch almost six months ago, she had a laundry list of professional ideas for her future. As we talked, it became clear that her main priority was becoming a mixed martial arts fighter. When she was younger, she’d competed in Karate, but she felt [...]

I love lists. Life seems so much more manageable when all the things I have to do are out of my head and down on paper, preferably typed—and numbered. Yay! I crossed off number 1! I feel a sense of relief when I complete a task. The list gets shorter. I get happier. I sleep [...]

Someone said to me recently that self-serving philosophies spread faster than altruistic ones. A practice that advances a personal agenda is more popular than an action that is primarily for the benefit of others. While I accept my friend’s practical observation, I have a hard time with it. Clearly, an ideal scenario would be a [...]

I’m not sure when it became a societal norm; all I know is that it’s now the norm. When you put in a business call, don’t expect it to be returned. When you submit a proposal, don’t expect an answer. When you’ve submitted a query, you will not get a rejection, you will get silence. [...]

From Wikipedia: “Synchronicity is the experience of two or more events that are apparently causally unrelated occurring together in a meaningful manner. To count as synchronicity, the events should be unlikely to occur together by chance.” Many philosophers have weighed in on the subject, but in my experience synchronicity happens in response to a consistent application of effort towards a good purpose. [...]

Tune out the news and media chatter on occasion and look around at the simple examples of people helping one another through trying times. Keep an eye out for signs of enterprise, for those people building from a foundation of principle and purpose. Goodness is here, everywhere—it’s just obscured by the noise of life sometimes.

The quickest route to feeling wonderful is to help someone else. The moment you shift the focus away from yourself and toward another person, you’re back in balance. No matter how difficult the circumstances in your own life might be, reaching out to a friend will nurture feelings of being valuable and needed—and that simply feels good.

I’m getting a lot of good coaching from my kickboxing trainer—the wisdom just keeps on coming.  Here’s what she offered today:  “You don’t have to punch hard all the time. The whole point is to set up the killer punch. Try small jabs, hooks, upper cuts until you find the opportunity for the killer punch. [...]