“I can never be what I ought to be until you are what you ought to be. This is the integrated structure of reality.” Martin Luther King Jr. If Martin Luther King Jr. was right and I can’t achieve my potential without you, then I’d better get to know you. And since we live in an ...

I’ve always wanted to know a philosopher. Imagine being able to make a quick call to learn the origins of a particular theory, to get the ancients’ perspective on an ethical dilemma or to discover exactly how derivative a seemingly original idea might be. Hi!  Can you share a good quote about wisdom? “The mark of wisdom is ...

I had an entertaining interview recently with Rob McNealy on his blog radio show, Startup Story Radio. Rob's passion is to use social media to evangelize about small businesses, and coaching entrepreneurs. I am grateful to Rob for giving me the the opportunity to talk about 3Lunches at length. Have a listen and share your thoughts: http://tinyurl.com/l6rojm ...

  Here’s what a perfect friend-coach looks like: One who listens to exactly what you’re saying. A person with the ability to place his or her personal issues aside to focus on you. Someone who thinks creatively and is open to talking through issues. A compassionate, but active friend who wants you to succeed – not support you in your ...

The young writer who never called after our first lunch finally called. Our lunch had clarified something for her. As she thought about the difference between having a good idea and actually working on it, she focused on what role she wanted to play in the development of her book project. Turned out, she wanted ...

3Lunches is meant to facilitate sharing between two people, and there is simply nothing more wonderful than when a person reaches out and offers time, knowledge, and experience to you. There's no other way to describe it; it feels like love. It happened to me just last week. Iggy Pintado, author of the new book, Connection ...

So, here you are…sitting across the table from your coachee. What now? Between ordering lunch and being served, your coachee should have enough time to outline the issue. There’s no need for a huge preamble.

I think we’re all part of very distinct tribes— not based on genetics, but on values. A tribe is like a political party; all the members speak the same language and completely understand one another. Your tribe is made up of people who share the same values, have similar emotional IQs, and maintain related ethical ...

A friend of mine, Mary--a museum exhibit designer and a painter--was approached by a young woman who wanted a career in the museum world. Mary was delighted to help and asked the recent college grad to visit the 3Lunches blog to get familiar with the process, and call when she was ready to start. Enthusiastic, the young ...

I have a Google Alert set to “increase in volunteering” and every day I receive a list of articles from blogs, websites and local and national newspapers with stories and stats supporting my intuition that this recession would cause a rise in volunteerism.