3Lunches is meant to facilitate sharing between two people, and there is simply nothing more wonderful than when a person reaches out and offers time, knowledge, and experience to you. There’s no other way to describe it; it feels like love. It happened to me just last week. Iggy Pintado, author of the new book, [...]

I think we’re all part of very distinct tribes— not based on genetics, but on values. A tribe is like a political party; all the members speak the same language and completely understand one another. Your tribe is made up of people who share the same values, have similar emotional IQs, and maintain related ethical [...]

A friend of mine, Mary–a museum exhibit designer and a painter–was approached by a young woman who wanted a career in the museum world. Mary was delighted to help and asked the recent college grad to visit the 3Lunches blog to get familiar with the process, and call when she was ready to start. Enthusiastic, the [...]

In this coaching example, it’s easy to see how one person’s difficult experience can be a gift to another person. The process of transferring the knowledge gained from your experience can be quite easy; especially when the coach’s direct experience mirrors the coachee’s. When you find a coach who has been through what you may [...]

Last night I dreamt I was on Twitter again. The default brown avatar with the bewildered baby-blue eyes stared at me, 140-word messages scrolled through my mind, but I couldn’t understand any of the communications. I’m not against Twitter. I may possibly love it, but the dream stayed with me.   Twitter is true democracy, [...]

If you’re going to coach someone over 3Lunches, it’s worth taking a look at how the professionals do it.       Legendary coach, Phil Jackson—known for his unorthodox coaching style—led the L.A. Lakers to victory in the NBA Championship Finals last week. The night after the big win, several of the Lakers appeared on Jimmy Kimmel [...]

“3Lunches is even more than a movement…it’s a state of mind. It’s people helping people…in real time. It’s 3Lunches for businesses, for out of work executives, for the lovelorn. It’s 3Lunches to find your mate, 3Lunches to close a deal, 3Lunches to learn something you don’t know, to make a career transition, to learn a new skill, to test out an idea.”

I’d met Mary eight years before when I visited the hair salon where she worked. She was just twenty-one, a talented stylist and we quickly became friends. A year later, Mary opened up her own salon. I admired her courage and entrepreneurial spirit.   When I shared the idea of 3Lunches with Mary, she immediately [...]

The 3Lunches introduction in London started with a bistro lunch in Knightsbridge. The guests were all women with a variety of backgrounds: a journalist, a former Vogue fashion writer and designer, a financial executive and the owner of a PR company – all bb (before babies they explained). None of the women were working at [...]

While in London, I met a gentleman in research at Morgan Stanley and his reaction to 3Lunches was immediately enthusiastic. “It’s like short term mentoring!” he said. “I do it all the time, and I’ve always had a mentor throughout my career.”   As a former economics professor, he was completely used to the idea [...]